Rubber band theory of dating
So the best advice on relationships in the uncertainty stage of dating is to not lose your cool.
There are some bumps on the path to finding a loving and lasting relationship and this is one of them.
This works as it gives the dude his space, but, the woman doesn’t enjoy it and can become bitter/jaded. When he’s like this it becomes abundantly clear that I am his favorite person. Lets see how it goes…I have lots of homework to do anyway and lots of plans set up this week.
I’ll make this lady week and reevaluate in 7 days to see how tense/lax the rubber band has become.
This is a time for the woman to stay open to his future advances, but more important, it is a time to fill up her life with the support of friends …
to think about whether he is really the right person for an exclusive relationship.
They eventually become saturated with man time and come in for more intimacy. Women respond to this cycle in one of three ways: 1) They get it and relax during the stretch part of the relationship because they know things will be okay on average 2) They freak out and chase after him, which only makes him pull away even further to get the man time he wants. He is the first to say that he wants to stay in and just hang out with me…”I’m in a you mode,” he’ll say. I like the teddy bear in him, but the only reason that teddy bear part exists is because he balances it out with man’s man time.
Sometimes the chasing/pulling away gets so extreme that it sours the whole relationship 3) They get angry and promise to not make the first move. He doesn’t care what people think and is never shy about public affection when we’re at school (I’m getting my MBA, remember? He lets me in on his crazy stream of conscious thoughts. Also, one of the draw backs of dating in business school is that you see your partner all the time. I’m sounding like one of those cheesy romantic self-help books but it’s true, I’ve had this epiphany and I wanted to share it.I just stumbled upon your site after doing a little search of my own on the rubberband theory and BOY!Sounds like you’re having a rough time with the old relationship. I experienced something similar, and in my case, the “sudden” breakup was closely tied to his own stress level than anything in the relationship itself. Then, a few years ago, the cheesiest self-help book of all landed on my lap: Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.The analogies are excessive, but quite a few of the theories in the book seem applicable to my own life.My boyfriend has recently broken up with me because “he wants to be alone, doesnt want to be in a relationship with me” but it’s weird and strange because it came about so quickly, and there are a lot of interesting side lines to it that don’t make sense. I suppose you have to ask yourself whether he’s been going through anything that is exogenous to your relationship. You’re 15 and already know that you’re blunt and unapologetic about it. I don’t blog as much as I used to, but your post motivated me so maybe i’ll start again:) Thanks for getting in touch.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating